By Ettagale Blauer
What piece of jewelry is more tied to emotion than the wedding band? While
an engagement ring signifies a promise, the wedding band symbolizes the
actual fulfillment of that promise, the marriage itself. It transcends
adornment: it is an integral extension of the wedding vows themselves: "With
this ring, I thee wed." We pledge our troth, we promise to love and honor
and we exchange wedding rings as the symbol of that pledge.
This small circle of metal is a very potent and significant jewel. The
unbroken circle symbolizes eternal love, a continuing, endless flow through
time. This universal symbol has been an important part of the wedding
ceremony for more than five centuries. Isn't it romantic to think that you
and your mate are linked by this ancient tradition to brides and grooms who
exchanged their vows through the ages? It not only symbolizes this marriage,
it also links you to the chain of generations past and future who celebrate
the marriage ceremony.
Finding Your Style
But which wedding band is right for you? Which one captures the full
sense of that tradition? Here are some hints on how to figure out just what
it is that you and your mate want to wear on your ring fingers from this day
forth. Of all the choices you will make for your wedding day, only the
wedding band will endure. As beautiful as your gown is, no matter how
delicious the cake turns out to be, even if the bridesmaids love their
dresses and you have the most perfect honeymoon ever, it is only the wedding
band that will be close to you every day, a beautiful symbol and reminder of
the day you took your vows.
For this joyous occasion, and for many years to come, you want a ring that
will always please you. Whether you choose a gold band or one of platinum,
or a ring set with diamonds, your wedding band should reflect your style,
your personality and your taste. It should be a pleasure to choose your
wedding band: just look at the beautiful possibilities on the Mondera.com
site. Let's start to sort out these possibilities by looking at what used to
be called "a plain gold wedding band." Well, plain is definitely just the
beginning today. Even the simplest, least adorned band offers options from
which to choose.
Choosing the Material
Do you like the traditional look of a rounded, brightly polished gold
band? You can choose one in 14k gold, 18k gold or even 24k gold. Remember
that the higher the karat of gold, the more golden in color the band will
be. Do you like the more modern look of a band with a flatter surface and
squared off edges? Do you like the look of textured gold? How wide would you
like the band to be? Traditionally, the wife's band was wider than the
husband's but today's traditions are what you make them, so go ahead - if
you are the husband and you like the look of a wide band, then that's the
band that's right for you.
How do you decide on the metal? While tradition, and perhaps your future
mother-in-law, says yellow, your heart may say white. If that is the case,
thank your mother-in-law for her advice and then follow your heart. You're
the one who's going to wear the ring every day. You might consider a band
that takes a beautiful middle ground by mixing the two colors, combining
white and yellow gold or yellow gold with platinum.
A bit of texture highlighting one of the colors adds even more detail and
richness to the design. A new classic combines an 18k yellow gold circle
enhanced along both edges with a narrow band of platinum (or vice-versa).
This dual-metal and duo-tone band need not be very wide to convey its
intriguing mix of elegance and individuality. If you don't want to mix the
colors but like the idea of a more intricate design, choose an all-yellow
gold band that has alternating sections of textured and mill-grained work.
Or consider a band with brightly polished areas contrasting with diamond-cut
work in the center.
For some, the gleaming color of gold symbolizes the warmth and love of a
marriage and is considered the 'traditional' metal. But traditions are just
waiting to be created and that's exactly the case with the new tradition of
choosing a platinum wedding band. Platinum's superb strength and purity make
it an ideal choice for this eternal symbol of love. Platinum also
coordinates with many engagement rings that have platinum settings. You may
want to wear the two rings together, on your left hand, and in that case,
platinum, or white gold, is the ideal choice.
A Band For Him
For many men, the wedding band may be the only piece of jewelry
they'll ever wear other than a wristwatch. You're both going to want to
spend some time considering this purchase carefully. Like so many of the
decisions you're going to make for your wedding, you don't have much
experience with this one, so take the time to consider the options. The
groom may be surprised to discover that he's very interested in a stylish
ring that speaks of his love and his new commitment. Keep your eye on the
details - though a wedding band is small in size, it packs a lot of design
on that surface. Through the years, you'll appreciate the richness of the
design, the way it catches the light, whether it's reflected from a gleaming
polished surface or bouncing off the details of a more intricate design.
Matching bands for men and women are among the many choices the two of will
see on the Mondera.com site. These graceful designs are designed to suit
both male and female hands. They offer a unique way to express your shared
love. For some couples, however, the exact same design doesn't have equal
appeal to both partners. Don't read any great significance into this - all
it means is that you have different tastes in wedding bands! There's no
reason to get yourselves tied up in knots because you can't agree on the
design of a wedding band. Enjoy your diversity and consider instead bands
that have a family resemblance. You might select bands that are both yellow
and white gold, but with different decoration. Or she may choose a diamond
wedding band, while he chooses one that is all metal. Remember, the wedding
band symbolizes your love and commitment, and symbols come in many designs
and patterns. It's even possible for one partner to choose a simple,
unadorned gold band while the other one has a diamond-set band. What counts
is how much you each like your band and how well it suits your hand.
Consider the Hand
Some basic jewelry buying rules will help you sort out the many beautiful
choices you'll see here. When buying a wedding band, remember that your hand
shape should play a role in the choice. The basic rule is the same when
buying any ring: width adds width, length adds length. A band that is too
narrow may look lost on a large-boned, wide hand. Consider a medium-width
band with an interesting herringbone design. If you like the look of a wide
wedding band, but do have heavy or wide fingers, choose one with rounded
edges that put the least pressure on the flesh of the fingers. The flatter
band looks better on a narrower finger. For slender fingers, a wedding band
with a diagonal design pulls the eye across the hand and gives the illusion
of greater width.
Consider the height of the ring when making your choice. A band set with
diamonds makes a larger visual impact and should be chosen with the shape of
the hand and fingers in mind. An open-work design gives a feeling of
lightness and is flattering to a broader hand. Because larger stones also go
well with the larger hand, a ring that is generously set creates a pleasing
appearance. The smaller or slimmer hand will look good with a multi-stone
ring, a series of smaller stones in a channel or prong setting. Just like
perfume, which uses the wearer's body chemistry, your wedding ring takes on
the characteristics of your hand. The hand is the showcase for the ring.
These rules will also help you understand why two different style rings may
be the ones that suit you best. Remember Jack Sprat and his wife; they were
a perfect couple because their differences complemented each other so well!
Wedding Bands @ Mondera.com!
Ettagale Blauer writes about fine jewelry for consumer magazines. Her
books on jewelry include Contemporary American Jewelry Design (Chapman and
Hall) and Wristwatches: Five Decades of Style and Design (Schiffer). Her
latest book is African Elegance, on the arts and crafts of sub-Saharan
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